Piotr Kwiatek OFMCap

„Człowiek niezadowolony z tego, co ma, nie będzie zadowolony z tego, co chciałby mieć” (Sokrates).

„Być wdzięcznym oznacza rozpoznanie miłości Boga we wszystkim, co nam dał – a on przecież dał nam wszystko” (Thomas Merton).

DZIŚ ktoś podzielił się z mną swoją pracą z „NOTATNIKIEM – 35 dni w rytmie wdzięczności”. Przyznacie, że rezultaty są imponujące! Zmiana we wszystkich obszarach życia – wow!!! Oczywiście ten fantastyczny wynik jest związany również z procesem psychoterapeutycznym w którym osoba uczestniczy, jednak warto docenić również rolę praktykowania wdzięczności. Dziękuję za pozwolenie udostępnienia tego na stronie. Pozdrawiam! „you make my day”! Ten dzień był cudowny również dzięki TOBIE – DZIĘKUJĘ!

 

Chapter 2

WHAT ARISTOTLE CAN TEACH US ABOUT BUILDING LOVE THAT LAST?

„Happy Together. Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts” written by Suzann Pileggi Pawelski, James Pawelski.

„Aristotle holds that love is the greatest external good. And he says we tend to love three different kind of things: those that are useful, those that are pleasurable, and those that are good” (p. 33).

„healthiest relationship are ones in which each person supports the autonomous motivation of other. In other words, instead of requiring the other person to be what we need, we work to help him become who he is” (p. 33).

„The more we think about what happiness is, the more complicated it can seem. We might be tempted to resort to Augustine’s clever answer about time: <If no one asks me, I know. If I wish to explain it to him who asks, I do not know” (p.38).

„What then us happiness? […] Human happiness lies in doing well what we are uniquely suited for” […] lies in using our rational capacities well” (p.39-40).

„eudaimonia is usually translated as happiness, it means more the just pleasant mood and refers to overall well-being or flourishing” (p.41).

OUR APPROACH TO BE HAPPY TOGETHER

1. PARTNERS LOVE THE GOOD THEY SEE IN EACH OTHER […]
2. THEY ARE COMMITTED TO EACH OTHER’S WELL-BEING AND SUPPORTIVE OF THEIR GROWTH […]
3. THEY ARE INSPIRED TO BECOME BETTER PEOPLE THEMSELVES (p.42-43).

„Happy Together. Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts” written by Suzann Pileggi Pawelski, James Pawelski.

„What, then, does make a couple happy together over the long term? What is the key to build love lasts?” (p.10).

„… research supporting three key activities for flourishing: cultivating positive emotions in your daily life, developing a harmonious or healthy passion, and remembering to seek out and celebrate the good time rather then just focusing on fixing problems” (p.12)

„the power fight against unhappiness doesn’t automatically produce happiness” (p.16).

„Positive psychology is a science that focuses on human strengths and potential and celebrate what’s best in life. It emphasizes goals, well-being, satisfaction, happiness, interpersonal skill, perseverance, taken, wisdom, and personal responsibility” (p.16).

INTRODUCTION: BECOMING HAPPY TOGETHER

„Happy Together. Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts” written by Suzann Pileggi Pawelski, James Pawelski.

„We believe in the importance of working on our relationships just like we work on our bodies at the gym. Fitness doesn’t come magically; it’s the result of sustained effort […] important is to develop good exercise habits that can make it easier to get to the gym and keep going on our routines” (p. 4).

I would like to share some wonderful thoughts from the book of „Happy Together. Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts” written by Suzann Pileggi Pawelski, James Pawelski. I’m reading this book right now, so I believe that it will be useful to share from time to time some meaningful sentences from this book. I hope that it will be also a good invitation to read the whole book. 

FOREWORD 

Written by the prof. Marin Seligman the funder of Positive Psychology:

„This is the first book to apply positive psychology research to romantic relationship (p. xiv).

„Relationships, of course, are right at the center of PERMA. Indeed, relationships may be the most important part of a happy and flourishing life” (p.xiv).

„Love is an action verb” ( p. xv).

„We have become better persons because of our relationship” (xvi).